Male/Male Friendship & Emotional Intimacy Survey

Q.1
What is your age?

Q.2
Which best describes you? (choose one)

Q.3
How important is your faith to your overall life?

Q.4
Are you satisfied with the number of male friends you have?

Q.5
A "Jonathan-David" type friendship (1 Samuel 20) is often cited as an ideal. How do you feel about having a close and trusted friend?

Q.6
Jonathan gave David his military armor, gear and weapons (1 Samuel 18:1 - 4). The ONE thing I MOST need to surrender to have close friendships is my tendency to . . .

Q.7
This question in similar to Question #6. How do you need to change to receive more support from friends? (choose all that apply) *

Q.8
How much do you feel a need in your life for support from other guys?

Q.9
What FIRST piques your initial interest in another guy as a potential friend? (choose one)

Q.10
How long have you known him?

This question is about your most important male friend.

Q.11
How frequently do you see him?

This question is about your most important male friend.

Q.12
How frequently do you speak to him on the telephone?

This question is about your most important male friend.

Q.13
How often do you communicate via email, text message and social media?

This question is about your most important male friend.

Q.14
When you are together, what is the average percent of time you spend talking about YOUR feelings?

This question is about your most important male friend.

Q.15
When you are together, what is the average percent of time you spend talking about HIS feelings?

This question is about your most important male friend.

Q.16
Based on the definition below, which behaviors are present in your relationship with your most important male friend? (choose all that apply) *

Emotional intimacy in male friendship includes the following behaviors: (1) emotional expressiveness (emotions ranging from contentment, happiness, sadness, frustration, fear, etc.), (2) self-disclosure (sharing personal information about oneself and/or one's relationship), (3) vulnerability (willingness to share one's weaknesses), (4) giving and getting support (both emotional and physical), (5) letting go of control (trusting someone to take the lead), (6) cooperation (compromising and working toward a common goal), (7) reciprocity (a balance of give and take in a relationship)

Q.17
Would you like more emotional intimacy in your male friendship(s)?

Q.18
Were you raised with a father or other significant male figure in your life?

* A significant male figure would be a grandfather, an uncle, a brother, a close family friend or other male caregiver

Q.19
If yes, which of the behaviors were present in your relationship with him? (choose all that apply) *

* Based on the definition in Question #16

Q.20
What kind of emotionally intimate encounters did you observe your father (or significant male figure) having with his friends? (choose all that apply) *

Q.21
How do your male friendships help you in your current romantic relationship? (choose all that apply) *

If you are not in a romantic relationship, apply the question to the last relationship you were in.

Q.22
How do your male friendships help you in your work? (choose all that apply) *

Q.23
How do your male friendships help you maintain or improve your physical health? (choose all that apply) *

Q.24
How do your male friendships help you with your parenting? (choose all that apply) *

Q.25
How important are male friendships to you compared to your other social relationships?
Very important Important Somewhat important Not important Does not apply to me
Significant Other
Children
Parents
Siblings
Co-workers

Significant Other

Children

Parents

Siblings

Co-workers

Q.26
What do you usually do when conflict arises with your close male friends? (choose one)

Conflict can include getting into a fight, having an argument, or having a disagreement.

Q.27
How long does it generally take to resolve conflicts with your male friends?

Q.28
Have you ever lost (or significantly decreased contact with) one or more of your close male friends? *

You can choose more than one response.

Q.29
Consider all the male friends you have had over the course of your life. What circumstances and/or situations helped you feel more emotionally secure (or safe) in your friendship with another guy?

This question is optional.

Q.30
Consider your most important male friend. What is it about him (or your friendship) that enriches your well-being? How does he encourage or challenge your growth as a person and/or as a man?

This question is optional.

Q.31
How would your describe your overall feelings about your most important male friend?

This question is optional.

Q.32
Why (for what reasons) do you appreciate, care about or love your most important male friend?

This question is optional.